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Guest

16th May 2006, 8:28 AM

Re: Body Image

I am in Australia and tonight we had a very interesting feature on the Current Affair programme about a couple of teachers who have launched courses for young girls (14-18yrs) with the aim of improving their body image and self esteem. The courses are designed to help the girls to see that the pressures placed on them by the popular media to achieve a certain physical ideal are unrealistic, unhealthy and unintelligent. These classes have become part of the curriculum in some schools here. It was unsettling but also positive to see these young girls sitting down together and sharing their fears and insecurities and then giving one another positive feedback and support. I wonder why education like this is not more common. All the conventional knowledge and high marks in the world are of no use if your self esteem is in tatters and you are insecure and image obsessed. True potential will never be reached in these circumstances. And these girls seemed to be having great fun as well.I say bring on the reality check education.

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Guest

16th May 2006, 8:27 AM

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I’m 19 and I’ve been fat ever since I can remember. It’s always been a sensitive issue for me, however I’m a fun person and when comments are made about my weight I pretend to not notice them or I joke around. The truth is that it hurts. A lot. I seem to be obsessed with food. Right now I have a block of Dairy Milk in my desk drawer that’s half eaten. I just find it so hard to actually stop eating, and it’s ruining my health. I’ve recently been under a lot of stress from studying and I’ve been under time constraints, so I often eat what is quickest. I know it’s simple to make the choice of switching simple ingredients in a sandwich, but my mouth wont let me, no matter how much my brain screams it out. I am now a size 14-16 and I get so self conscious when I go out that I’ve started to just stay at home with my family. They love and accept me, but my mum continues to make comments, my little sister is catwalk model material and my dad laughs at fat people on the street.

The point of my ramblings is that I’m trying to give the thinner girls an insight into what it’s like to be fat. Constantly walking around with your gut tucked in, crying into your pillow at night, stuffing your face with chocolate because the sweet taste gets your mind off your problems, it is harder than you think.

However, before reading these posts I have never realised that thin people feel the same way. They too are harassed about their weight. But I ask you size 6, 8 and 10s: do you feel physically comfortable with your body? I find it hard to walk, I sweat easily, I find it hard to fit into clothes. I have trust issues with guys because I feel as though I am not attractive, so I think to myself: what else could they want from me if I’m not attractive to them? Answer: they want to use me – sex, money, whatever. I can’t be with a guy because I feel uncomfortable: when all the other girls are sitting in their boyfriends’ laps, what do I do? When the other girls are getting piggybacks from their boyfriends, do I give him one?

Girls, it’s hard no matter what size you are. The point is, try and coach yourself to be happy and confident with who you are, because trust me, it’s a terrible thing to feel like you’re going to burst into tears everytime you see a gorgeous woman grab the attention of every guy in the room as soon as she walks in. I hate my body and I hate my face, but I guess everyone will just tell me to deal with it.

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Guest

16th May 2006, 8:26 AM

Re: Body Image

I think that real beauty is always on the inside.
If you have a curvier body and feel great and also know that you look good then why does it matter what people think. as long as you are happy being you the people that are closest to you will love you for who you are and not what you could be.

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Guest

15th May 2006, 2:51 PM

Re: Body Image

i completely agree with you

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KateNZ

15th May 2006, 2:51 PM

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I completely agree that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, and that includes small women. I am naturally a size 6 and am sick to death of being told that I’m not a “real woman” or that I must have an eating disorder to be this small. I am healthy and happy and don’t want to be made to feel bad by bigger women making snide remarks about my weight. People seem to think they have license to make fun of or be cruel to thin people, but it’s completely unaceptable to say anything about bigger people’s weight. The emphasis should be on health, not size, and then everyone who isn’t “normal” would hopefully feel much better about themselves!

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Guest

15th May 2006, 2:51 PM

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I agree that its what’s on the inside that counts, but unfortunately society dictates that, that is not the case. I’m a bigger woman, but i have great friends, they love me for who i am on the inside, not for what i look like on the outside.

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Guest

15th May 2006, 2:50 PM

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I think to feel good is to look good. The way you feel about yourself inside will reflect the way you look on the outside whether it be the way you dress, smell or even speak. Size doesnt mattter as long as you are healthy.

If you feel good on the inside everything will just follow as long as you maintain the fact that what comes out of peoples mouths aint always what they are thinking in there head, if jealousy rears its evil head a compliment can easily be traded in for a katty remark. So if you come across them SMILE and know that deep down inside they are wishing they could be as happy as you are, and maybe with that smile they could be.

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Guest

15th May 2006, 2:49 PM

Re: Body Image

posture most important

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Lauren

15th May 2006, 10:57 AM

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my mum is fat, size 20 but i think she is beautiful. However, beauty is due to her personality and unwrinkled facial features. I would hate to see her in a swim suit or anything too tight. I think the issue here has to do with how well you dress and how you can change your lifestyle. I am in no way applauding her weight gain, as i am a size 10, but i think that if she exercised more she would be able to make some changes. Ladies, big is not better, but sometimes thin isnt as good either. Lets all sit around the size 12 -14 and we will all be alot better off, that little bit sexier with a curve and have more skin to lather on moisturiser for that soft feel, why not throw in a fake tan too, coz brown is beautiful.

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Guest

15th May 2006, 10:57 AM

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We should all love the body that we were born into – our skin, eyes and our hair are all things that we cannot change. But we have to face the fact that we are a country of overweight people. Obesity is revolting, and it should be seen with the same stigma as smoking, excessive drinking and speeding – all things which society has taught us to hate.

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